Listening skills is one of the first things taught in counselling skills training. This may sound a little basic but really listening is not that easy. It takes practice to stay with what someone else is saying, to remain present and not to interrupt.
The problem is, most of the time when someone is talking we are not really listening to what they are saying, instead we are thinking about our related experiences and what we are going to say in reply. I imagine you will know what I mean and have experience of talking only to be interrupted or [Read more …]
As a provider of talking therapy, or counselling as many of us call it, I felt excited when I came across this great article in praise of talking therapy. The article, 11 Intriguing Reasons To Give Talk Therapy A Try, explains clearly how and why talking therapy can help with many difficulties. In particular it is in praise of the analytical approach that psychodynamic counselling offers. This is my main approach, although I have also trained in using CBT and solution focused skills as well.
The introduction of the article says: “Many of us grew up under the impression that [Read more …]
Change can be a challenge.
What do you think about when you are in the shower, cleaning your teeth or making a cup of tea? Are these activities you can do on automatic pilot? More worryingly; have you ever travelled a familiar route, arriving at your destination wondering how you got there, unable to recall the details of your journey?
We are clever. We can do many things without really thinking about them at all.
What should we do then, when we want to change the way we do something? Being more present, or more aware of what we are [Read more …]